Thursday, November 26, 2009

Of Nice Guys & Imperfections

Nice guys are such a rarity, right? You know the kind of guys who don’t swear, talk respectfully all the time, who make sure they drop you back home after a night out even if you’re not their girlfriend, who always hail a cab for you & hold the door for you, who always give up their seat for a woman etc.

But you know what….after a point even nice guys get annoying! Just like perfect women are annoying.

You know the thing they say about perfection….how we all look for someone who’s just a little bit imperfect b/c that tiny bit of imperfection makes them even more appealing & attractive?

Well, guess what….that’s all bull. We look for someone with imperfections b/c they make us feel better about our own short-comings. They reassure us about ourselves. And we all look for external reassurance, alright. Anyone who says we don’t is probably the most insecure person around.

Defense mechanism, they call it.

5 comments:

Moonshine said...

At times you want a reaction from them!! Imagine a life where a person is always polite, always the perfect gentleman... at times one wants reactions, one wants to shake up these people who do not have those twinges of extremes!!!! I dont know if its a function of own shortcomings or external reassurance.. but whatever it is!!

Scarlett said...

@Moonshine - I feel it's normal not to be perfect. We want reactions from others just as we react to people/situations ourselves. Someone who's always nice is boring.

The knife said...

that's why a touch of chilly in a dessert or a bit of sugar in a spicy dish can make all the difference ... and I'll take the Metro the next time :)

Scarlett said...

@The Knife - LOL. I wasn't referring to you!!

And I agree with the "bit of sugar in a spicy dish" bit but "chilly in a dessert"? Are you referring to the green chilly vodka cheesecake (or something to that effect)?

The knife said...

he he so not a nice guy... or have imperfections?

I once had a lovely chilly mousse during a tasting at Zenzi. I feel that a touch salt lives up desserts too